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RELATIONSHIPS COACH
EPIC INITIATOR
Stop waiting for love – become it.
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Are you watching your emotions drive your relationships into the ditch?
You’ve hit a dead-end in your relationships and you don’t know what to do.
This can show up in a lot of different ways, but it feels like suffering, not satisfaction.
You know in your bones that you’re meant for more, but you’re afraid it’s not going to happen. It’s hard not to notice the lack of what you want when it’s in your face. It's not there.
It feels confusing, desperate and hopeless at times; you’re tired and frustrated. It can feel like silent screaming that no one can hear and you’re hitting your head against a wall.
At other moments, you’re trying to trust the process. You're trying to be optimistic that a solution is out there, but it feels like you’re swinging from hope to doom and back again.
To make matters worse, it feels like the clock is ticking and it’s not coming…and you have to figure this thing out fast. Or do you need to surrender? Which is it?
You’ve been searching, seeking, reading books, scouring blogs, bingeing podcasts, opting into email lists and freebies: is it that course or program or practitioner? Is the answer in this post? What’s my next step? What’s the right answer?
It’s like flitting from one thing to another without being able to ground it or apply it. This is because your fear is trying to get you to attach to a solution so you can feel better (then information becomes the new addiction)...
You’re seeing the patterns. You know somehow you’re recreating this in your relationships, you just don’t know how.
You know there’s something you’re not seeing and you’d do anything to know. You wish someone could just tell you what to do so you could do it already and finally feel safe, settled + secure in partnership.
Love is something that’s so important to you, it's everything; you have so much to give and there’s still so much you want to do and you want to do it with your person. You intellectually know that you deserve to be happy.
You want to build an incredible life with your amazing beloved. You want to travel the sun-drenched coasts with them, tip your head back and laugh out loud at their goofy face, explore that new pop-up museum with them, have adventures that you’ll tell your grandkids about, make love under the stars, slow dance to your song, create beautiful things together — and you want to have your own solid foundation and deep trust in yourself.
Above all, you want to feel emotionally heard + held. And yet your relationships haven’t felt safe enough for this. Not in the way you need.
You know this kind of love exists, but it feels like you might as well be trying to catch a unicorn.
So, why aren’t you manifesting the deeply nourishing, passionate and soul-satisfying relationships you truly desire?
The answer is in the relationship you have with your emotions.
YOU are the unicorn.
You are the unicorn trapped in the emotional waves so high you can no longer see the shore and you’ve forgotten that the magic is in you, it flows through you and it IS you.
That magic is how you feel. It’s how you create beauty, love and delight in this world.
Your relationships, your life reflect your emotions back to you…it’s telling you the story you’re weaving about yourself: who you are and what you get to have. What is it showing you?
What is the emotional architecture you’ve built? This is the scaffolding of your relationships. All of them. Including the one with yourself.
Emotions need a right relationship with consciousness.
Allow me to explain.
Think of consciousness as an awareness, it’s the part of us that’s observing and noticing…but who are you when you are noticing your emotions? This makes all the difference.
Are you a powerless child, a critical parent, an annoyed stranger?
Are you seeing yourself as though you are the cherished beloved? Or are your emotions the enemy? Are you at war with aspects of yourself?
If you don’t love your feelings, if you feel powerless or like a hostage or resistant to feeling or overwhelmed, that’s the signal you’re emanating. If you don’t know what to do or how to feel, you’re at the mercy of the emotional waters and you can’t consciously create from there.
If you’re blocking your emotions, you’re blocking love.
If you’ve never completed the cycle of emotion + impulses, you’re trapped in the emotional waves…
You’re emotionally constipated. And fully feeling is what it takes to sift and sort through the contrast you’ve heard so much about. If you’re not fully feeling, you’re not releasing and therefore, you’re not receiving.
Joseph Campbell once said, "Every feeling fully felt is bliss." The reason why we're not feeling bliss when we feel?
Again, it's our relationship to our emotions; it's fear and resistance.
Feeling good is a practice.
Allowing emotions to flow is a practice.
Attuning to yourself and taking inspired actions is a practice.
Commitment to self is a practice.
If the relationship with your emotions are out of balance, they run amok like a wild child. They can be entitled and headstrong, unchecked and indulgent.
You've likely heard that “the heart wants what the heart wants,” but is it in your highest good to let the “heart” lead when you haven’t discerned if this is your wounding or your higher-self?
Either the emotions and consciousness come from the hands of the wounded ego or they become the instruments of spirit.
They need containment like a healthy dom/sub relationship.
They need guidance like a healthy parent/child relationship.
They need reverence like a sacred, earth-born diety/worshipper relationship.
They need commitment, consistency, patience and faith like a devoted lover/beloved relationship.
If your relationship to your emotions is fear, they rule you. Fear takes the lead.
There’s not one way to define this relationship but if it’s out of balance and you aren’t the master of them you’ll know.
You’ll see it in your relationships. You’ll feel it.
When I say "master," what I mean is a kind, balanced steward. This mastery means that you're gentle and attuned but also firm.
In every moment, you are either a victim or you’re a creator. Either you remember who you are or you’ve forgotten and you feel lost.
Your emotions will make decisions without your consciousness being involved if you don’t involve it — that’s like a one-sided relationship. It’s a recipe for face-planting in a ditch (and we’ve all done it).
When your emotions and perspective are not in love with each other, the divine masculine-feminine balance is off — you can’t fear, hate or judge the feminine and thrive in relationships nor can you fear, hate or judge the masculine and succeed in love.
Both have their right place. Consciousness, intellect and emotion. When the relationship is in balance, there’s harmony, when it’s not, there’s chaos.
We manifest our relationships our lives from the intersection, from the dance of these two energies.
We must learn to walk through the sacred fires of the inner-relationship in order to successfully manifest the external partnerships with people and life we desire.
Your relationship pain is trying to get you to wake up. You’re trapped in the illusion of fear, lack and scarcity around relationships.
Your emotions, your subconscious are your inner labyrinth. Will you remain at the mouth of the cave or will you summon the courage to enter? It's time to go deeper and go beyond the intellect.
"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." – Joseph Campbell
You are brave enough to confront yourself and integrate all parts of you, leaving nothing behind.
You are a soul warrior and the new battlefield is emotional. The way is through.
But you don't have to do this alone. And you don't have to know how this will all happen. You no longer need to be afraid of your feelings, triggers or the truth. You just need to know how to navigate them. You need to know how to put on the armor of consciousness and right perspective.
You’ve tried it from your head, it’s time to try it from your heart.
The emotions influence 90-95% of all decisions.
If you don't have emotional awareness and mastery of those influences, how are you able to *actually* make decisions?
Carl Jung said, "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
Yes, you deserve to experience the freedom of reclaiming your power in relationships so you can experience the love that is your birthright.
You know that soulmate love is for you. The depth of your commitment to yourself and learning these skills to emotional mastery are what makes this reality you're creating possible.
Being able to embrace your emotional self fully, to know how to soothe your triggers and evolve, this enables you to be in love with the moment; you're no longer waiting, you're no longer trying to escape to another time and place when you have this thing that you want that you think will make you happy.
Your relationship to your emotions in the moment makes you magnetic to the love you want because when you're already in love, nothing can stop it from rushing to you.
You are no longer in the way of your own happiness. You become the way.
Emotional Alchemy
Applications close 11/11/24
Alchemize your emotional pain into power.
Would you like to:
Successfully self-soothe your relationship anxiety, triggers and confusion so you can feel better and experience emotional calm, clarity and confidence within yourself?
Stop self-abandoning for others, or pressuring yourself to produce specific relationship results so you can finally relax in your relationships and feel more ease and fun in your day to day life?
Know how to interact with your emotions and thought processes to find inner clarity so you can access your higher self and hear the voice of your intuition so you know what to do next?
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Have a process to understand why you are where you are so that you can know how to stop the cycle, set boundaries, have impactful conversations, move forward and make decisions with confidence?
If you're...
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Afraid that your triggers, emotions, reactions and old patterns of behavior are ruining your potential for happy, healthy relationships.
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Tired of reading and learning about attachment, psychology and relationships but watching nothing change in your life.
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Finding yourself attracted to and in relationships with emotionally unavailable partners.
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Worried about the clock running out on you "figuring out" and "fixing" your relationship blindspots.
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Feeling stuck where you are with how you're feeling and your relationship status.
I'm here to tell you that you can (because this process has worked with hundreds of clients)...
Learn the skill sets that will help you:
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Create a sense of inner calm and understanding around your emotions and those of your partners.
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Create clear lines of communication with yourself and others.
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Identify and experience healthy relationship behaviors and attachment so that it becomes familiar.
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Feel more confident and satisfied in your relationships.
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Learn to trust your needs, wants and desires so that you can take loving actions to support those.
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Understand why relaxation, ease and emotional authenticity are your greatest allies.
If you'd like to heal your relationship to your emotions so that you can find trust within yourself and create the kind of love you desire, Emotional Alchemy was made for you. I'd love to talk about the kind of transformation you'll achieve in this course during a complimentary 1:1 discovery call.
If you’re interested in changing the way you do relationships forever and want to learn the secrets of relational alchemy, click on the link below so we can determine if this is the best fit for you. Space for this course is limited.
Click the link below to book your FREE discovery call now.
Program details:
Applications close 11/11/24.
This will be a transformational experience, designed to help you make habitual change.
Emotional Alchemy is a 16-week trauma and attachment-informed coaching program designed to help you heal your relationships from the inside out and clear your unconscious blocks to love so you can experience deeply satisfying relationships.
This is a 16-week implementation program and experiential learning process to:
Practice cutting-edge neuroscience based-skills to rewire your system for more connection, compassion and satisfaction in your relationships.
What's included:
16-weekly Live Coaching Sessions
Join 16 root-cause group coaching calls so you can heal the root of your unconscious blocks to love and release yourself from the patterns that have been holding you back via a deeply-supportive container.
16 Virtual Modules with Video Training, Detailed Slides, Home Play Exercises and Journaling Prompts for Integration and Implementation Work:
Virtual training delivered weekly to access and study at your own pace and convenience. You can access the modules from the learning portal. Immerse yourself in the process of neuroscience and attachment-based healing and guidance through each step of Relational Alchemy.
High-Touch, High-Quality Private Group Support:
A private support channel so you not only learn to implement the process, but have high-quality support along the way so you can share your wins, aha’s and challenges as well as receive timely guidance. We are in this together to support your nervous system as you heal.
Private 24/7 group support access for consistent guidance during the course (Mighty Networks).
A Year Access to Relational Alchemy Content & Curriculum
Online Portal:
Recorded Live Calls, Course Materials and Extras here for you in your private online membership portal.
These are the foundational pillars of the Emotional Alchemy Process:
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Identify your biggest relationship challenges so we can get crystal clear on what the underlying problem is (basically, we need to have complete clarity on your Point A: Where you are now, so we know how to create your Point B: Where you want to be).
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Break the recurring cycles of relationship pain through using awareness, discernment and self-soothing skills (we need to develop your awareness in the movement to honor and work through your relationship fears so you can take new actions and make new choices).
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Create the embodiment of secure attachment through experiencing and practicing secure habits (we need you to know what healthy love looks like, feels like, how to give that to yourself and immerse yourself in it so you can create new behaviors and receive love deeply).
TESTIMONIALS
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– Kara K.
“After a few short months, my energy had shifted causing friends to wonder if I had a secret boyfriend as the source of my glow-up!
My approach to dating and relationships has shifted from anxious and stressed, to curious and playful. With her gentle and humorous guidance, Angela helped me release the tethers of my protector parts and fearful avoidant attachment style that had dimmed my light for many years.
I've truly embraced main-character energy and am having the time of my life. Working with Angela has been one of my best investments in self-care.”
– Deidra R.
"My biggest breakthrough was that I had anxious and avoidant attachment and that there was going to be constant interplay. I can now grasp onto and feel that feeling of secure attachment a lot more easily than before.
I wanted to feel sturdy, I feel sturdier. I know the path to sturdy, feels, acts, looks, and feels much more clear to me.
I knew that it was going to push me to invest in myself. I knew it was going to up level me and it did, massively. It gave me a new lens to look at relationships and has brought me into myself deeper. I feel so grateful."
– Logan W.
"Angela has really changed my life A LOT – I'm now married. When I started working with her, I was very single. Things had been burned to the ground essentially and I worked through a lot of my stuff, I did a lot of healing and I've been growing my business too. She's super awesome, I highly recommend her...
But only if you're ready, willing and able to do the work because it's not easy, it's not always going to be pretty, but you'll get where you want to go."
– Kerry M.
“I feel more secure all around and am so excited about the future. I have less overthinking, more understanding, less dissociation, more embodiment plus breakthroughs in how I work with my emotions.”
– Carolyn S.
“Dating feels a lot different now! I feel calm, clear on what I want, and I’m able to ask for what I want.
I’ve met someone who kept stepping up; I never thought it was possible to have this kind of love.”
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– Annie F.
“Angela was SO validating for EVERYTHING. I have been dealing with anxious attachment, codependency and sobriety for the past few years, but never really dove deep into trauma healing. This was exactly what I needed. I was going through a rough break up and really resonated with her content on Instagram. I instantly felt connected to her.
I had no idea how so many of my habits were tied back to my trauma. It was like having a trauma encyclopedia at my fingertips lol!
I’ve developed a relationship with my inner child like never before. Since completing the program, I feel like my intuition is heightened, I generally have a better outlook on life, I feel ready for a new relationship and I’ve started an online business that I have always dreamt of having. I would definitely work with Angela again in the future!”
– Jess A.
"Working with Angela was what my soul needed. She had accomplished more for me in our first session than in hours with other practitioners. Angela has a very unique gift to understand her clients, see into their blindspots, teach them what they need to know and walk with them to higher ground. She inspired me in many ways, including to step more fully into my story and purpose. I felt like my time with Angela helped so many of the pieces come together for me. I highly recommend her.”
– Kim S.
"Prior to working with Angela, I was feeling massive amounts of insecurity, not feeling sure of myself, unable to really parent myself, my security was solely based off external situations, relationships especially.
She's helped me so much to tap into my inner child, my own power, my own intuition, my own wisdom and I have never felt more powerful and more confident in my life. I absolutely adore Angela, she's helped me grow immensely.
Working with her has been so cool because as I’m growing and evolving, so is my business, so is how I’m showing up. It’s just really amazing to be able to speak to my clients with a different language, be able to give them better insights and to help them peel back the onion even more in their own lives and the more I go within, the more I can help my clients go within — I just really love seeing just how it’s all manifesting and it just makes me feel super happy."
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– Mike S.
"I was struggling with a situationship that had me feeling stuck among many other things.
I could instantly tell Angela “got me.” She's been there every step and season along the way. Angela really helped me see my personal life and dating with so much more clarity.
Professionally she has guided me to step in, and take over a 2.5 million dollar company while increasing my current company 25%. To say the least I have changed for the better. I cannot express my gratitude enough for the support and significance she brings. I highly encourage anyone who is open to taking a step of growth to talk with Angela and start the journey to feeling more free now! Love, your best client..."
– Francine S.
"I met my boyfriend (now husband!) at an open music jam in Brooklyn, we took things slow and fell deeply into the healthiest love that grows every day.
Thank YOU, Angela, for helping me see the light and love within ME in order to open my heart again."
– Julia B.
"I’m now aligned with the most amazing partner and I know it wouldn’t have been possible to even connect with him unless I worked through all the things I did with Angela’s help. We all deserve the love we desire and owe it to ourselves to uncover how to receive it.”
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– Nick C.
“In some ways, before, I definitely felt like a fucking wreck. Angela showed up for me in my life in such an honest, true and generous way. My insides would be in full revolt, or wild with anger and there she was right next to me, encouraging me, seeing me. She leaned in when I leaned out, received when I needed to be heard, a masterful spiritual ballroom dance partner she knows all the steps, from meltdown to freakout, breakthrough to ah-fucking-ha, right there, in tune and happy to be dancing. With a breadth and width of resources Angela adeptly helped co-create some real internal growth in our working time together and I’m honored now to consider her a kindred friend. She’s an absolute fucking gem!”
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– David G.
“Can I give more than ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ?
I’m a recovering addict with 12 years clean. I was recently in a unique cross country relationship where I tried to make up for distance in number of loving ways and I was reunited with the awareness that I have a pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable partners.
I’ve shared things with Angela that I may never share with anyone and I've had some very intimate relationships in my life. And I feel good about it. I feel honored. And as a result I’ve learned to honor shadow aspects of David that I was unaware of before.
Angela taught me about my masculine/feminine wounding, showed me coping skills and taught me self-soothing techniques. She has helped propel me forward on my healing journey! I’m so grateful for you…you’re a bad ass!”
ABOUT ME
Hi, I'm Angela.
I have over 15 years experience in the personal growth, development and leadership field. I'm an attachment-based and trauma-informed relationships coach. I started Epic Initiator Coaching almost 9 years ago.
I have successfully coached epic personal, business and love-life transformations in 1:1 clients, couples, business partners and in group coaching containers.
I support leaders, high-achievers and purpose-driven people in relationship transitions whether through dating, healing from divorce, navigating business relationships and dynamics, and new commitments into marriage.
My mission is to provide world-class support in aiding others on their journey to healing and experiencing more: more love, more fun, more joy, more bliss and more abundance.I'm a certified Coach + Energy Leadership Practitioner through the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), the International Federation of Coaches (IFC) and am a certified Deeper Dating Coach through NY Times Best Selling Author, Relationship and Intimacy Expert, LCSW and Psychotherapist, Ken Page.
I have completed numerous courses with industry leaders and experts in the trauma, attachment, neuroscience, emotional healing, business, community and relationship fields such as Mastin Kipp, Derek Rydall, Dr. Margaret Paul, Alison Armstrong, Aubrey Marcus, Erick Godsey, Caitlyn Howe, Kyle Kingsbury and pursue continuing education credits through the National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM), Science and Non-Duality (SAND), and the Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies (MAPS) among others.
I would love to meet you, learn about your unique journey, the challenges you're facing and help you to illuminate and interrupt old, stuck patterns so that you can finally create the kind of love and relationships you deeply desire.