FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS:
WILL THIS WORK?
It's completely understandable that this question may come up because chances are, you've tried a lot of different healing modalities just to get here. Committing to coaching does requires an investment and commitment to yourself. The coaching container is a space for you to bring awareness to what's been unconsciously blocking your progress towards what you want to create and to not only help you shift your perspectives, but to help you find a sense of safety and consistency around what you really want. The goal is to support your healing and growth edge as you become the person who is able to create and sustain what you truly desire. It's normal to feel fear and excitement around hiring a coach; you may ask yourself:
Am I willing to do what it takes to have the life I desire?
Am I open to learning new things and taking bold actions with support?
Do I desire positive change in one or more areas of my life?
Am I willing to invest time and money into changing my life?
If so, you're ready to commit to one of the greatest investments in yourself you could ever make. I have found that healing is not only possible, but inevitable if you're willing to show up, be present and do the work.
If you're done with feeling stuck, powerless and confused in relationships and ready to call in a sense of confidence, clarity and power, schedule a complimentary discovery call with me by clicking here.
HOW MUCH DOES IT COST?
This is also a very common question and makes perfect sense that one seeking support may ask immediately. I've made the decision to not post prices for the majority of my services for two main reasons. First, from an attachment perspective, a lot of wounding occurs around support, connection and commitment. It's normal for someone with relationship trauma to try and determine whether something is right for them on their own without connecting with another human because it's part of a wounded pattern. I invite you to accept support around learning more about how coaching may benefit you and stretch into the discomfort of connecting with another person to seek support.
The other reason why I don't post pricing is because my rates do change and depending on which program is the best fit for you and the service you specifically require, there are many variables. I'm more than happy to discuss the full details of any offering I have, answer any questions you may have as well as to let you know the cost of investment.
ARE YOU A THERAPIST?
I am not a trained therapist, I'm a trauma-informed relationship coach specializing in attachment and relationship dynamics. I have a coaching certification through the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) and I'm accredited through the International Coaching Federation (IFC) and certified Deeper Dating Mentor through Ken Page LCSW's Deeper Dating Certification Program. I have also trained in many intensives with mentors like Mastin Kipp, Dr. Margaret Paul, Derek Rydall, Baeth Davis among others and continually seek education credits through though coaching the National Institute for the Application of Cognitive Behavioral Medicine (NICABM), Science and Non-Duality with Dr. Gabor Mate and the Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies (MAPS) and other trauma-informed and cutting-edge neuroscience groups with leaders like Dr. Peter Levine, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Richard Schwartz and Dr. Sue Johnson. My goal is to never stop learning and evolving so I can provide world class, informed support to my clients.
Coaching often walks a very fine line of dealing with and healing emotions, but in coaching we mostly look to the past to inform the present, heal what's standing in the way of progress, and then focus on creating what you want. Coaching is more results-focused. We look at not only achieving goals but permanent and lasting change. The goal of therapy is usually to take a person from a non-functional state in an area of their life (not surviving well) to a functional state (surviving). The goal of coaching and mentorship is to take someone from functional (surviving) to thriving (feeling really empowered and confident).
It's not uncommon for people who want to really make changes quickly to have both therapist and a coach at the same time, in fact, I often recommend it if this is something you can fully invest in. Coaching is not the same as therapy or counseling, but there are similar aspects of those specialties included but what we talk about, how deep we dive, what you'd like to focus on is based on permission from the client as well as their nervous system. As a coach, I partner with you (and your nervous system) to move you in the direction of what you want to create, as quickly and as safely as possible while considering your own skills and abilities at the time to sustain that growth. You always have a say in how you are coached and to what level.
WILL YOU TELL ME WHAT TO DO?
My goal is to help guide you to the best decisions for you and to make certain recommendations for you based on my own experience and expertise, but it's up to you to decide what you'd like to take action on and what decisions you make. In my work, honesty and integrity is a large part of my value system, so I will always offer what I see happening from my professional perspective and invite you into seeing if that perspective resonates with you.Our first goal is to begin with awareness of why you are where you are, learn what's been keeping you stuck so we can work with the root issue and offer healing and relief.
HOW DOES COACHING WORK?
Each session is 1 hour, during which I lead the client through a system: identifying their limiting patterns, learning their attachment style, gaining clarity on what's been keeping them from achieving the kind of relationship goals they desire. We also work on healing trauma, self-soothing and managing tiggers that may arise outside of our sessions so the client is able to be self-sufficient. It's recommended that clients bring their own issues or concerns that they'd like to focus on in their sessions, but I'm happy to create a healing curriculum based on the vision you have and to help co-create the best course of action with you. In the end, our sessions are client-driven and are here to serve the needs of the client, but there is a strategy and structure in place to help guide the client on the path to healthy, secure love.
DO WE ONLY DISCUSS LOVE?
I am a certified relationship coach and performance specialist. I decided to further specialize in relationships (especially the one to self) because I found them to be the biggest contributor to an individual's success in life and love, therefore something that I have chosen to master. I continue to learn everyday; it is my passion. I often coach practitioners, therapists, entrepreneurs, industry-leaders, doctors and CEO's as well as anyone who would like to level-up all areas of their life and relationships.
Given that you decide how to use your sessions, we can discuss anything that's relevant to you. I help my clients with many different kinds of relationships including their relationship to self, friendships, roommates, relatives, in-laws, parents, employer-employee dynamics, and authority figures, among other types. The coaching container is a place where you bring an issue you'd like to work on a we create a shift in perspective together as well as tangible action-plans to put your creation into practice.
HOW LONG DO WE WORK TOGETHER?
Time and consistency is key when it comes to creating new behaviors and healing old habits. I've found it takes a minimum of three months to really begin to see results and change. Many clients will experience great results in a short period of time, others may choose to commit to coaching for a longer time period given their specific goals. I think it helps to remember that you are changing hard-wired habits and ways of being that have been often practiced for decades, so it takes time to practice healthy relationship skills. There isn't a magic pill, but I've found for those willing to commit to themselves and the healing journey, change is inevitable.
WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A FULL SESSION AND CONSULT?
A consultation is really an introductory session to ascertain what larger issue a client would like to work on for a long-term coaching agreement as well as to see if there is a good client-coach fit. I ask: "Am I able to help this client achieve the results they desire or would they benefit more from a certain modality, therapy referral, or other specialist? Are they ready for coaching? Is this the best fit for both of us?" We need to have a good partnership. It's vital for the client to feel a sense of connection and get a feel for how the coach works. Do you as a client feel comfortable with the coach? Do you like them? A full session is an actual coaching session where a specific issue or circumstance is addressed and worked through during the session. There's usually a problem identified, what may be causing it, shifting the energy and perspective, goal setting and next action steps planned. Consults are free, coaching sessions are part of coaching packages.
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