Helping high-achievers and purpose-driven people resolve what stands in the way of the deeply satisfying relationships they want.
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Are you an intelligent and driven, high-achiever, but when it comes to love…you feel more like a failure?
Do you see your repeated patterns in relationships but don't know how to stop them?
Do you feel like you're running out of time to figure out what's blocking you in love?
Do you feel like romantic relationships are your Achille's Heel?
Have you been unable to decide whether to stay or go?
Do you feel like your emotions and reactions are sabotaging your relationship?
Do you find that you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners? That you give more than you get in return?
Maybe you worry that you're not the kind of person that will ever have the kind of love they want...
But you secretly hope that you'll meet the love of your life and that will make it all better?
Do you feel guilty for pushing partners away either by being needy or too much?
Have you ever felt that your background and trauma has made you uniquely f*cked when it comes to having healthy and satisfying relationships?
Or that soulmate love that feels both safe AND satisfying just isn't possible? That you have to compromise?
Have you ever been blindsided in relationship with unexpected breakups, betrayal or someone moving on without telling you?
You may be asking yourself things like…
How are you supposed to get the soul-shaking, leg-quaking, safe AND satisfying kind of love you want if you keep self-abandoning and sliding back into old behaviors that don’t serve you?
And, is it actually possible to to get the love you want without losing your self, compromising or getting sucked into old, painful patterns?
If you're anything like I was, I bet you’ve tried things like therapy (all the kinds), 12-step groups, coaching, EMDR, psychedelics, meditation, somatic experiencing, and bingeing all the information you can get your hands on...*and nothing has quite worked for you yet, right?*
How do you find the TIME ⏰ to heal old wounds, navigate emotions, triggers and date on and offline…if you have a fast-paced, high-achieving, purpose-driven lifestyle?
How do you justify spending money on therapy if you're not getting the results you want? Or on courses and support if you barely use the guidance or have trouble putting it into action?
😨 Why is it so nerve-racking to fully commit to yourself and what you want?
Is the constant battle to try and get the love you want really worth it?
Can you really get safe, secure AND satisfying love without getting hurt and losing yourself?
🤔 And when should you stop trying to make it work (with the emotionally unavailable person, modality, your way of doing things, etc) if you’re not getting the outcome you want?
🤔 Should you even try connecting and having conversations if it all turns out the same way?
🤔 Are you doing things like affirmations and visioning? How often?
🤔 What about making lists of your ideal partner and what you want?
STOP. JUST STOP. 🤯
If any (or all) of the above questions run through your head… day after day… I might be able to help.
Hey, it's Angela here… 👋 I go by Epic Initiator because I initiate clients into their epic love stories.
And, while I don't claim to know it all, my expertise IS relationships. I HAVE helped hundreds of clients transform their relationships & life by creating sustainable step-by-step action plans. I call them Epic Badasses (because once they’ve been through my program, they own that title). 💪
And yet…
Not that long ago, I was in your shoes.
Those early days were rough. Mega rough.
I'd take a step forward only to take three more back. When it came to love, I was drowning in self-doubt, pain and confusion.
I was cheated on and betrayed by partners. I was lied to and gaslit. I used to have emotional breakdowns every few months when I was married. I was always the last one to know that things had changed. I had a rebound relationship that changed my life and it still ended with cheating. I'd dated jealous guys, guys that had addictions and micro-addictions, guys that were codependent and emotionally unavailable, guys that were f* boys and guys that were anxious and guys that were avoidant. I thought I'd found my soulmate only to realize that when it came time for deeper commitment, he was no longer sure.
I discovered that I had both the crippling fear of being abandoned and the repulsion of having someone who was more into me than I was into them. I preferred to chase. I either wanted my partners more than they wanted me or they wanted me more than I wanted them. I wasn't finding that sense of reciprocity I truly desired.
I'll never forget the day that I ended things with my partner while still being madly in love with him and broke his heart and my own in the process; but I also knew this was the instant that I had to choose myself.
That was the moment that changed everything for me.
I knew in that moment, if I was strong enough to honor myself in the midst of being in love, I could help others who had lost themselves in love.
I had already been certified as a coach, had already been studying attachment, psychology, spirituality, polarity, codependence and relationships inside this relationship...but it was time to take the path less traveled.
Though it hurt, I have never regretted my decision to choose me.
I decided to make my pain and my journey into something that could serve people like me who felt powerless in love.
If that's kinda how you feel right now...
Let me give you a road map, so that you stop hitting dead ends or getting lost on back roads, and instead take the fast lane to the kind of deeply satisfying relationships that you really want.
Let me show you how to unleash your epic love story. 💪
👇 Here’s what I’m proposing. 👇
I’ve had a TON of highly-intelligent and driven people, that were struggling with love no matter what they did, reach out to me asking for my help. And, my 1:1 offer is not sustainable for everyone.
So, I had this crazy idea to build a step-by-step plan to guide you from feeling lost, confused, stuck and hopeless in relationships to experiencing peace, clarity and empowerment in your love life in 6 weeks.
No fluff. No messing around, just a simple plan to take you from relationship dumpster fires to passionate fireworks.
💪 REGISTRATION IS NOW OPEN: Unleash Your Badass in Love 💪 6-Week Challenge:
I am looking for 15 high-achieving, purpose-driven people who are sick of self-abandoning and compromising in love and are ready to take back control.
On August 19th, these founding members will start working closely with me to clear their unresolved blocks to love so they can finally have the safe and satisfying relationships they really want. I will not let you fail.
Does this sound exciting to you?
Would you LOVE to stop falling into old patterns and start taking the right steps towards FINALLY achieving the emotional mastery required for lasting love?
Those 15 Founding Members will get:
✅ 6-Week Unleash Your Badass in Love Challenge so that they can reclaim their power and clarity in love.
Theses are the milestones we'll be working through day by day and week by week together:
Week 1 - Breakthrough Perspective: Clarity Mapping
Week 2 - Devotion: Practicing the Love You Want
Week 3 - Emotion Surfing: Mastering Emotional Waves
Week 4 - Engaging Intellect: Directing Thought-Forms
Week 5 - Walk Boldly: Embodying the Changes
Week 6 - Claiming Choice: Radical Self-Honoring
👉 The Challenge follows the Love Alchemy Method, which is a unique system to shift your perspective and break through old patterns in relationships. The best part of this method is, you’ll know exactly why you are where you are, how to get to where you actually want to be and have the most fun in the meantime.
Bonuses:
✅ Weekly Live Accountability and Coaching – so you can get clarity quickly and dive right in!
✅ The Trigger Tamer: A Quick Guide to Soothe and Respond, Not React – so you can navigate triggers and emotions as they arise without projecting onto and straining your relationships. It will give you step-by-step instructions on how to plan for, prepare and work through these challenging situations.
✅ A Private Community and Accountability Support Channel – so that you see results and stay consistent to build momentum into actual changes.
✅ Your Own Membership Site – with content and support at your fingertips so you can access your content anywhere at anytime.
✅ Discounted Monthly Coaching – Including access to new content and my upcoming course, Emotional Alchemy (yes, you get a bonus course) to hold you accountable and create long-term success. Should you want to continue, affordability won’t be the excuse.
The best part is, you will get all of this for a huge discount as a founding member!
When I do the full public launch, the investment for this program is going to be mid-four figures.
But I have a sneaky reason for giving you a huge discount…
I’m looking for 15 Founding Members, who I can work with closely over the next 6 weeks to get them incredible results.
I’m looking for future testimonials of the Epic Badass Movement!
I'm only asking for a fraction of its actual value from you, while my goal is to amplify this value and exceed your expectations.
“My approach to dating and relationships has shifted from anxious and stressed, to curious and playful.” - Kara K.
“I’m crying...this journey is about connection and what a beautiful we have. You have made a safe, non-judgmental space for me to allow myself to fully feel.” - Brenda L.
Interested in feeling light in love?
Click the button below to apply and we'll have a strategy session to see if this is the best and most awesome fit for you.
It’s that simple.
Looking forward to it!
Angela
PS: You may be thinking…What’s the catch? Well, there is no catch. I’m simply looking to test out my new program and get some killer testimonials before releasing it to the wider public at the price it deserves.
PPS: There are only 15 of spots available as founding members for the 6-Week Unleash Your Badass in Love Challenge, so if this sounds like you, don’t wait!
✅ If you are interested in claiming one of the 15 spots available, apply below and we'll connect!
As an actor, writer, stand-up comic, Army linguist and singer, how did love end up being what I've come to help countless others with?
I found that over and over again, I put myself, my dreams and what I really wanted on the back burner and settled for less-than-satisfying love from partners that couldn't really see me or honor me because I couldn't truly see or honor myself.
I decided that I would find out what was blocking me from the love I knew was my birthright and why these uncommitted and unavailable partners kept showing up. And then, one day, I surrendered in a moment and chose myself and my path to learning how to let love in and find myself.
Once I began learning why everything in my relationships made sense, had happened the way it did, I realized I couldn't keep this to myself and it became my passion to help those who were stuck like I was.
It was no longer just about me, but liberating others who felt powerless in love.
First, I had to work on my perspectives. While I felt powerless to love and in a constant state of fear and yearning, I had patterns, behaviors and beliefs around love that were not supportive, in fact they were destructive and kept me small.
They were not helping me to create the love and the life I wanted. This included what I thought about relationships, how I responded to romantic interests, the expectations I held and reinforced when it came to others (not just romantic interests), my own fears around abandonment, enmeshment and failure, and even the things I found myself saying about past partners or "truths about love" that were not true at all, emotions I held, my own identity I'd given myself when it came to love, down to the energy I embodied.
But, I didn't stop there. To be able mentor this, and actually help others well, I had to take it much deeper. Not only did I change the role relationships played in my life and create new supportive beliefs around love, I began to understand the purpose of relationships. I discovered a process for shifting into an energetic state of openness, willingness and satisfaction to enter into a naturally magnetic state of wholeness.
I learned to understand and interact with others in a way that fully honored and supported me, all while setting and communicating clear boundaries and having the time of my life.
After sharing this work with hundreds of people I can tell you this: each person's relationship journey and way they take bold, inspired-action different, but the results I've seen time and time again are in line with the following:
Finally having a sense of knowing what to do and a grounded sense of self, a renewed sense of hope, feeling a sense of fun and ease around dating and relationships, so much more self-appreciation, self-compassion and emotional relief, less internal criticism and more grace, spontaneous bursts of joy, play and creativity, major shifts with parents, siblings, former and current partners that were highly unexpected to EVER happen, unaligned relationships falling away more quickly and easily and aligned relationships showing up and stepping up, and overall experiencing much more satisfaction in all kinds of relationships.
Of course, I LOVE love, so the weddings and engagements that are announced from my clients are always so lovely and exciting, but I also know that those come from them healing their internal relationship, which makes my heart burst.
Even with my personal and client successes, I've continued to increase my understanding relationships, masculine and feminine energy dynamics, polarity, relationship dynamics and attachment. I'm a continual and curious student, always process improving and implementing new strategies and combining modalities.
Today, I have an international business with clients I have helped based in over 15 countries. I have contributed to happy marriages and happy divorces alike because my clients have realized that it's not the relationship status that matters, but them actually just honoring their own heart that leads to true happiness (and us finding the right people for us).
Twenty-four years ago I was engaged, twenty three years ago, I got married to the person I thought I would be with forever. I had the half-million dollar dream home, dream partner and life that friends were jealous of, as they often told, they wanted the love they thought I had...but if I had been able to be honest with myself, I could have admitted that I was deeply unhappy.
That love turned out to be a pretty illusion. What we create from the seeds of ignorance already carry within them the seeds of destruction. And what a painful destruction that was.
I went from being married straight out of the military and into a high-earning dual income marriage and had all the things. I even owned a cake stand. When all of that had crumbled, I embarked on a journey to honor what I wanted.
Fourteen years ago, I left an almost 6-figure job to get my bartender certification and return to acting. Thirteen years ago, I was auditioning, making sketch comedy, doing standup and the rebound partner that I deeply loved had dropped me suddenly...and I wanted to die. I couldn't bear the weight of betrayal yet again. Then, I got Lyme's disease.
I was determined to heal my body, I was determined to go to New York and follow my passion and I was determined to try again with love and to do whatever it took to figure out this thing called love. And I did all of that. Now, here we are.
There are lot of people that feel anxiety and stress over relationships every single day – and their relationships status is actually not the origin of their pain, though they often believe it to be. I've found unhappy people that are married, or single or dating and I've found people that were divorcing to be more blissfully happy than ever.
Relationships aren't just about warm bodies, sexual attraction, how long people have been together, status and not being alone. Love is about your own energetic connection to yourself and what you'll allow in. Are you authentic in love?
What I'm here to mentor you through will revolutionize your life. Even with online dating, scarcity around relationships causes people to hang on to inauthentic and trauma-riddled connections.
People will either stay stuck in relationships that don't serve them, try to rationalize to themselves to stay when they know they should go, or avoid having conversations or setting boundaries that would help them to actually discover whether this relationship could thrive, whether the person they are with is BOTH willing and capable to do this deep work of life and play with them. Some people will run or push others away when they should stay and learn the wisdom that's here for them.
Relationships are a journey that we must go on. We can't flip to the end of the book to know how things will turn out, we must be bold and take actions that are heart-inspired. Fear often illuminates the path.
This is why it's important to not stay because you're afraid to leave and not leave because you're afraid to stay.
But none of this will happen until you know what you must do and you are ready to do what you must. Only you can make these choices for yourself. This is about discovering your own truth, not having to do what some expert tells you to do.
I obviously cannot guarantee specific results with this course, but I can tell you that my clients and students shift from feeling fear, doubt, confusion and a sense of feeling stuck in their relationships to new, lighter beliefs around relationships, release their negative memories and associations with love, experience far less anxiety around what, when, who, why, how and, move into the experience of creating, experiencing, receiving, witnessing beautiful changes in the way that this love energy shows up all around them.
And supported them in doing what shouldn't have been possible for them, but somehow, was.
Clients have left toxic relationships, said no to narcissistic love, left loveless and controlling marriages, found new exciting healthy partners, healed strained relationships with their parents, shifted strained relationships with business partners and employees, gotten engaged when it didn't seem possible, gotten married and have had the time of their life being single and dating when that had never felt fun or easy before.
This is what past clients have said:
"This was so exactly what I needed – I've developed a relationship with my inner child like never before. Since completing the program, my intuition is heightened, I have a better outlook on life, I feel ready for a new relationship and I've started an online business I always dreamed of! I would definitely work with Angela again in the future!" Annie F.
"As a result of working with Angela, I've learned to honor shadow aspects of David that I was unaware of before. I learned about my own masculine and feminine wounding and have learning amazing self-soothing and healthy coping skills. I'm so grateful for you, you're a badass!" -David G.
"Angela is the first person on the planet that actually made me feel normal. She validated my feelings, explained the root cause of my behaviors and gave me the answers I desperately needed and wanted to hear. She explains it in 'my language' so it clicks; I was able to make lasting changes that never seemed to stick before." -Abby N.
"I feel more secure all around and excited about the future. I have less overthinking, more understanding, less dissociation, more embodiment, plus breakthroughs in how I work with my emotions. This has been deeply healing." Kerry M.
"Angela showed up for me in such a true and generous way; my insides would be in full revolt, or wild with anger and she was right next to me, encouraging me, seeing me. She's a masterful spiritual ballroom dance partner, she knows all the steps, from meltdown to freakout, breakthrough to a-fucking-ha, right there, in tune and happy to be dancing." -Nick C.
Unleash Your Badass in Love 6-Week Challenge
MORE TESTIMONIALS
"Prior to working with Angela, I was feeling massive amounts of insecurity, not feeling sure of myself, unable to really parent myself, my security was solely based off external situations, relationships especially.
She's helped me so much to tap into my inner child, my own power, my own intuition, my own wisdom and I have never felt more powerful and more confident in my life.
I absolutely adore Angela, she's helped me grow immensely. "
- Kim S.
"I knew that it was going to push me to invest in myself. I knew it was going to up level me and it did, massively. It gave me a new lens to look at relationships and has brought me into myself deeper. I feel so grateful.
My biggest breakthrough was that I had anxious and avoidant attachment and that there was going to be constant interplay. I can now grasp onto and feel that feeling of secure attachment a lot more easily than before.
I wanted to feel sturdy, I feel sturdier. I know the path to sturdy, feels, acts, looks, and feels much more clear to me."
- Deidra R.
ABOUT ME
Hi, I'm Angela.
I've have over 15 years experience in the personal growth, development and leadership field. I'm an attachment-based and trauma-informed relationship coach. I started Epic Initiator Coaching over 8 years ago.
I have successfully coached epic transformations in 1:1 clients, couples, business partners and in group coaching containers.
My mission is to provide world-class support in aiding others on their journey to healing and experiencing more: More love, more fun, more joy, more bliss, more abundance.I have coaching certifications through iPEC, the IFC and am a certified Deeper Dating Coach.
I have completed numerous courses with industry leaders and experts in the trauma, attachment, neuroscience and relationship fields and pursue continuing education credits through NICABM, SAND, and MAPS among others.
I can't wait to meet you, learn about your unique relationship journey and challenges and finally help you create the kind of love you want.